Coping: A Survival Guide for People with Asperger Syndrome
- If you travel abroad somewhere for whatever reason you might
find you have to adapt yourself to a rather different way of life.
This might be quite pleasant, or it might be quite difficult and
inconvenient for you (culture shock).
- Whenever you are in a different country take extra care
crossing the road because in some countries there is a lot of
reckless driving, drunken driving, speeding, cutting corners,
shouting at other drivers and showing off.
- If you are travelling of your own accord be careful about your
choice of destinations. Find out about the reasons for which most
people go there and DO NOT rush your decision.
- If you decide to go on an expedition, remember that
you might have to be travelling and living with the same group of
people almost 24 hours a day and that the rules given under the
chapter living away from home
might apply twice as strong. Also, you might be living in a way
which is particularly uncomfortable and inconvenient.
- If you end up not getting along with the group as well as you
would like, you might decide to venture away from the group on
your own and talk to the local people, who might welcome you with
open arms and treat you as an honoured guest in their home where
the pace of life might be much slower and calmer than you are used
- If you end up as a guest staying at someone else's house along
with all your luggage and possessions, be sure to write down their
address and/or telephone number as soon as possible, preferably in
secret, so that if you get lost (e.g. in town) you won't get
permanently separated from them. With people who are
over-friendly, it is especially easy as an AS sufferer to become
over-trusting, even if you don't think this will be a problem at
- On the other hand in some countries the people tend to be
colder and less interested in you than they are in the west and it
can be quite awkward to talk to them. There may also be a lot of
tension and possibly heavy prejudices and racism about in these
places, so if you are of a different religious faith it will be
best to keep it to yourself.
- In third world countries things don't tend to run as smoothly
as they do in the west and you will be living a more risky
existence. Even if the people are excessively friendly, they can
sometimes turn quite nasty if provoked or offended in some way.
The value of human life might be a lot cheaper than it is in the
- In the third world the people might be as much as a hundred
times poorer than people in the west, but this does not mean that
you will be helping out by giving away your money. In poor corrupt
countries money always has a habit of finding its way to the
richest and most unscrupulous people who exploit people poorer
than them selves. Charities like Oxfam and Comic Relief are highly
trained and experienced in getting the money and the resources to
the right people in the right places.
- In many third world countries, the police, court system and
law might be extremely harsh and corrupt so keep out of trouble
and try to keep a low profile. The police might be able to get a
lot of bribe money by setting you up as a scapegoat and then
taking you hostage in one of their disease ridden, often crowded
and highly uncomfortable police cells.
- If you are travelling abroad independently for the first time,
it is most certainly best to stay in the Western World and travel
to countries like France, Holland, Canada, Spain, Scotland or
Switzerland, parts of which can be very beautiful and pleasant.
- In many countries (all over the third world and also over much
of Mediterranean Europe), you will be constantly expected to
barter and bargain in the market place. The generally agreed
prices can vary anywhere from one eighth to one half of what you
would normally expect to pay for them in the shops in the west.
Bargain with a smile and in good spirit but remember that it is
always your own responsibility to be assertive and not let
yourself get ripped off. It is also entirely the sale merchant's
responsibility not to sell at a loss. If you have made a good
bargain for yourself they may play heavily on your guilt as you
walk away by saying something like 'you're taking the shoes off my
- Remember that getting ripped off can make you feel angry with
- These people don't sell at a loss, some of them may have
decades of selling experience behind them.
- If someone tries to make a bargain with you which is unfair or
seems untrustworthy, simply say 'no thank you' and calmly walk
- It is easy to get ripped off if you are unfamiliar with the
- If you are making an informal deal with someone back at home,
you want to be neither too generous nor too stingy. To find the
balance can be hard.
Coping: A Survival Guide for People with Asperger
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Looking on the bright side
Distortions of the truth
Humour and conflict
Sexually related problems and points about
Finding the right friends
Keeping a clean slate
Living away from home
Jobs and interviews
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